My Apologies

Do we apologize too much?

Do we mean it when we do?  I sometimes wonder.  We all try to get ahead. Ahead of each other. We may not realize that. To get ahead, we mean to get ahead of you.  At what point, can we stop?

I no longer need to get ahead.  It’s not that I’m finished.  With anything. I’m still trying to reach my goals.   I’m just not competing with you. Anymore.

I used to know someone like that. He was  always trying to show he’s getting ahead. No stopping him. He wanted to leave a legacy.

He wanted to be all things to all people.  What is it you want to hear? He’d tell you. Be more aggressive. Be less aggressive.  No, of course not, that’s not what he meant.  Wait a minute, yes it was.  He flipped, then he flopped.

He got to the point where he wouldn’t talk to people if he thought they wouldn’t always agree with him. He was always hurt, because he was really a nice guy and couldn’t understand why people would have a different opinion.

Today a different day? Then today it’s a different tale.  He convinced himself he was loved. Then he was convinced everyone turned on him.  He ended up being true to no one. Least of all himself.  In a short time he could be depressed, happy, angry, sad.

And he would apologize. Constantly. It was as if he felt that if he did, then everyone he hurt, stepped on , would accept him better.

I once heard him say nothing ever hurt like… fill in the blank. It was always something beyond his control.  But he would always, always apologize.

After awhile, no one listened. Or cared. He eventually left his job.  Not sure where he was headed.  I think he got burned out.  He was already well into his thirties.

My take? Be true to the truth, the reality of each situation. Not just your version. Do what’s right, not just what is expected, or convenient or expedient.  Not always easy I admit.

Where is he now? I really don’t know. I haven’t seen him in awhile. I think he discovered he didn’t have to always get ahead to make a difference.

How did I know this guy?  He used to be me.

JT

 

What Happened to your Generation?

With Your generation.
Not mine.
Yours.

I grew up behind the love generation. Make love, not war. That generation.
Maybe it was my generation too.


We thought we would change the world.

I thought it was pretty cool. I was cool.
But what exactly happened. To you? To me?

The war I grew up with. Many thought was wrong.

War. Poverty. Environment. Ghettos. Prejudice. Government.
Don’t trust anyone.  Over 30 or older.
Rebel.

We were the generation that was going to change everything.
Looking back. Did we?

Did anything happen?
What changed?

Did anything get better? I’m not sure.
Maybe I’m a cynic.
Not much did.

It’s 2016.                                                                                                                                                          And we still are facing: War. Poverty. The Environment. Ghettos. Prejudice. The Government. Today, no one trusts or even likes the candidates running for President. Maybe LBJ and Nixon weren’t so bad after all.

We were right, right?  Even righteous.
Did we sell out?

Or did we just not know what would happen?
What little control we’d have.

Am I alone?

We wanted to change the world.
Did we?

Maybe we just needed to change ourselves.
One by one.

I knew hippies.
Now everyone claims to have been one.
Age related revisionism, no doubt.
I don’t know.
Maybe it’s just the time of the season.

Any advice for you? Not from me.
You’ll have to learn on your own.

JT

Changes (2017 version)

Yes here it is, 2017.
What are you looking to change? What am I?

The world always spinning, changing.
Yet never once seemed to change to accommodate me, what can I change?

Last year I wanted to stop the outrage. Stop. The. Outrage

Yes I wanted to stop being so outraged and upset about everything.

I did OK.
I found I was able to focus more on today, the here and now rather than time traveling – to the past or to days and anxieties yet to arrive.

There was some success but then I’m not afraid to admit I am somewhat of a work in progress.
It’s hard to change habits that have been committed over decades.
But I tried.

I think I’m more relaxed now.
So I’ve got that going for me.

In past years I’ve started the year by trying to be more grateful; by practicing daily my 4 corners for better health (physical, spiritual, mental and emotional); writing 10 ideas everyday and; by stopping the outrage.

I think resolutions help me get better. Better at living life.

This year?
I’ve found there are still too many areas needing attention. Still.

So I’ve composed a list.
Of things I want to do this year that will help me get, and keep me, on track.

1. To always remember “I am, therefore I owe.” I’m grateful for my life, and I owe it to someone.
2. To be slower in reacting to negative people.
3. To not judge those who are simply different from me.
4. To be a better person. It’s too easy to judge others who don’t meet my expectations, so
5. I want to meet my own expectations first.
6. To always remember those who lived and went before me, they had a greater impact on me than I sometimes admit.
7. To see goodness in everyone I meet.
8. To forgive and be merciful to others who have wronged me. Or at least stop reacting to them.
9. To be compassionate in a passionate way.
10. To be a better husband, father, son, brother and friend.

A difficult task to list these goals. Even more difficult to do them.
May not succeed like I want.
But I will try.

I used to think I could change the world.

Think there’s a better way.
Now I’ll settle for changing.
Just one man.

Ciao.
JT

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